13 February 2010

Saying It.



The words I love you are the most magical. And while I believe that love is an action word, I also believe that it must be spoken. Many of us perhaps think that when we say it often, we will lose its meaning. But words become meaningless only when there is no genuine feeling behind them.

I just realized that not a lot of couples actually tell each other I love you often enough. Some are on verbal love diet. And some others just find it corny, they would drop the I in I love you when saying it. I read somewhere that when people drop the I in I love you and say Love you instead, it lacks sincerity. Maybe. Maybe not. I guess, we cannot judge people's sincerity just because they choose to drop one letter from their sentences.

For me, though, that one letter is significant. Somehow, having the I in I love you is like taking responsibility for the feeling. Dropping it almost seems like these magical words have become so generic.

And then there are those who save their I love yous for special occasions. That is really sad. I believe that words, spoken or written, adds to the fullness of that love that's already there. Words confirm what you know in your head, what you feel deep inside. And a genuine I love you affects, positively, the person you are saying these words to.

Those three little words are truly the most magical. And when they are spoken with all sincerity, they also are the most meaningful.

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Photo: Cafe Breton, where these half random thoughts found inspiration.
Post-processed using my own PS Action (still on it's experimental stage). *grin*

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Liza February 13, 2010 at 5:58 AM  

I agree. I think "Love you!" as opposed to "I love you!" is mura'g dinali-dali, but that's just me.

The hub and I don't really say "I love you" very often, but I actually like it that way because when he says it, I know that somehow, something I did moved him. I do the same. :-)

Mommy Blogs February 13, 2010 at 7:03 AM  

I say it often enough with an "I"... something is wrong if you say luvyah! Ka punk ba... hehehe =)

But if I don't mean, lisod litokon! Di mabayran para pugson hehehe!

Happy Valentines Day Ai =)

Filipinas February 13, 2010 at 7:13 AM  

I say it more. I don't care if I don't get it back. I'm just like that. Some people find it uncomfortable, as if they aren't worth saying it.

AS for my husband, nag verbal diet gyud sya. OR maybe constipated. He's always been more of the action kind. I just find it irritating when he says "You doooooo?! No Shit-tay?!" or "You BETTER!" in reply. But that's his way of acknowledging. The day he stops being kulit, then I'll be really worried.

Tita Lou February 13, 2010 at 10:24 PM  

For me dropping the "I" is okay, I guess people are just lazy that way. But as long as that someone stops and looks you in the eye for a second when they say "'love you" that is more meaningful because when they say it while rushing to the door without looking back . . . that is sad.

Mommy Blogs February 14, 2010 at 1:16 AM  

Filay, my husband would say this in return "unsa pa akong mahatag nimo 'day? nakuha na nimo tanan!" LOL!

JoPiE February 14, 2010 at 5:44 PM  

we say "i love you" more to baby benjamin than to each other now. there's something wrong with this picture, methinks. i intend to rectify this, starting today. :-)

thanks for the reminder, ai! happy v day!

Aileen Siroy February 15, 2010 at 12:22 AM  

Liza said...
I agree. I think "Love you!" as opposed to "I love you!" is mura'g dinali-dali, but that's just me.

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But I agree. :)

Aileen Siroy February 15, 2010 at 12:23 AM  

Mommy Blogs said...
But if I don't mean, lisod litokon! Di mabayran para pugson hehehe!

Happy Valentines Day Ai =)

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It's true, it's difficult to say it when you don't feel the love at all. :)

Happy Valentine's Day, T! :)

Aileen Siroy February 15, 2010 at 12:27 AM  

Filipinas said...
I say it more. I don't care if I don't get it back. I'm just like that. Some people find it uncomfortable, as if they aren't worth saying it.

AS for my husband, nag verbal diet gyud sya. OR maybe constipated. He's always been more of the action kind. I just find it irritating when he says "You doooooo?! No Shit-tay?!" or "You BETTER!" in reply. But that's his way of acknowledging. The day he stops being kulit, then I'll be really worried.

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I guess, it also comes from the fact that it's not in our culture to say it. At least, those of us who are tiguls na because back in the day, our parents didn't say that much to us, di ba? Good thing, many parents now say that often to their kids.

About the husband, he certainly has a funny way of saying I Love You back. *grin*

Aileen Siroy February 15, 2010 at 12:29 AM  

Tita Lou said...
For me dropping the "I" is okay, I guess people are just lazy that way. But as long as that someone stops and looks you in the eye for a second when they say "'love you" that is more meaningful because when they say it while rushing to the door without looking back . . . that is sad.

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You have a point, Tita. However people say it, I guess, it all boils down to sincerity of the person saying it. :)

Aileen Siroy February 15, 2010 at 12:33 AM  

JoPiE said...
we say "i love you" more to baby benjamin than to each other now. there's something wrong with this picture, methinks. i intend to rectify this, starting today. :-)

thanks for the reminder, ai! happy v day!

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Haha. You're cute, Jops. Yey to more I love yous! :D

Happy Valentine's Day, lovely one.

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