01 June 2010

A Sacred Moment.


This, this broke my heart.

. . . . .

It took two days for the family to tell my grandfather that my grandma has passed away. We didn't know how to tell him. You see, he loves her very much and they've never been away from each other since they got married. I grew up seeing them hold hands and kiss. On their golden wedding anniversary, my grandpa cried while saying his vows.

Grandma passed away on Monday evening, we broke the news to grandpa on Thursday. That same day he learned about it, he decided to go to the wake.

Everyone was so surprised when he arrived. He was wheeled directly to the casket and cried the moment he saw her. He stayed there for about 40 minutes, close to the casket, and cried silently.

It was, for me, a very sacred moment.

We all fell silent for a good 40 minutes, too. We took our place on the pews and cried as silently as grandpa did.

The sight of him there all broke our hearts.



He asked me if he could take a closer look at this photo of grandma. "I just want to make sure it's really her," he said. I think he was still in denial, or still hoping that all this was just a bad dream. I handed him the picture: "Is that her?" I asked him. "Yes, it's her. I can't believe she would die." He said in between tears. And then he closed his eyes, opened it again... maybe, still hoping the nightmare would end. But it didn't.


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chelo June 1, 2010 at 2:00 AM  

this is so heartbreaking..im in tears reading each line

Aileen Siroy June 1, 2010 at 2:06 AM  

chelo said...
this is so heartbreaking..im in tears reading each line

. . . . .

It is, Chel.
I still cry each time I remember this moment,
or when I look at this picture of him near the casket.
Sakit sa dughan.

konsuy June 1, 2010 at 4:53 AM  

sakita oi. *hugs*

Mommy Blogs June 1, 2010 at 6:30 AM  

the first photo is heart breaking ai... they say men couldn't handle being alone. i hope your grandpa stays strong. a love like that don't come easy in this lifetime...

i still remember their golden wedding. that was when i just knew you. it's amazing i have trekked life with you and your 'moments'...

i wish i could give you big hugs and lots of food. it must have been hard writing this. it may be short but in between the lines, i know you were sobbing silently.

your grandma must have loved you so much to leave you this way. oh that alone is something i wish i had...

grieve siroy, and then summon the strength your grandma once had.

(you may not publish this comment.)

Badeth June 1, 2010 at 9:26 AM  

Nakakaiyak naman ito!

I may have not known your grandparents but I can feel for them; I can feel for you.

Oh yes, your Reb is right. Your lola is artistahin!

Aileen Siroy June 1, 2010 at 2:59 PM  

konsuy said...
sakita oi. *hugs*

. . . . .

That's exactly what I felt then, Chi.
*hugs back*

Aileen Siroy June 1, 2010 at 3:02 PM  

Badeth said...
Nakakaiyak naman ito!

I may have not known your grandparents but I can feel for them; I can feel for you.

Oh yes, your Reb is right. Your lola is artistahin!

. . . . .

Thank you, Badeth.
Yes, she looks artistahin. :)

Aileen Siroy June 1, 2010 at 4:03 PM  

Mommy Blogs said...
the first photo is heart breaking ai... they say men couldn't handle being alone. i hope your grandpa stays strong. a love like that don't come easy in this lifetime...

i still remember their golden wedding. that was when i just knew you. it's amazing i have trekked life with you and your 'moments'...

i wish i could give you big hugs and lots of food. it must have been hard writing this. it may be short but in between the lines, i know you were sobbing silently.

your grandma must have loved you so much to leave you this way. oh that alone is something i wish i had...

grieve siroy, and then summon the strength your grandma once had.

(you may not publish this comment.)

. . . . .

Thank you for giving me permission to post your comment. :)

It is heartbreaking, T - that picture.
I still cry each time I look at it.
They loved each other so much, it's inspiring.

We've been friends that long na diay?
I'm glad and I feel blessed.
I'm grateful that you've been there in many
of my life's 'moments' and to witness them.
Thank you for always being there.

I know if you were here, you'd be hugging me,
and feeding me (I miss your maja) and I know
you'd try to make me laugh.
I'm glad I have you, T, because
you are one of the few who just gets me.
You can read between the lines and I don't have
to explain myself.

Thank you, T, because in times like this,
you are one of my sources of strength.

Anonymous June 1, 2010 at 4:56 PM  

this is so painful..just wanna hug u and say no more...BUT though i do not know them i can tell that lolo's love is pure,rare and strong enough to handle everything.even times like this.-normita

Aileen Siroy June 1, 2010 at 6:50 PM  

Anonymous said...
this is so painful..just wanna hug u and say no more...BUT though i do not know them i can tell that lolo's love is pure,rare and strong enough to handle everything.even times like this.-normita

. . . . .

Thank you, Norms. Just the thought already comforts me.

Badeth June 2, 2010 at 10:24 AM  

I wanna give your lolo a power HUG!

Aileen Siroy June 2, 2010 at 3:50 PM  

Badeth said...
I wanna give your lolo a power HUG!

. . . . .

:D He's appreciate that, I think. :)

Anonymous June 3, 2010 at 6:51 PM  

Ms. Aileen,

This is Rachel, I was just coming to lok at the Photographs before but ended up reading the blogs.
I was the one who commented how true and heart warming your blogs are.

Please accept my sincere sympathies. Your grandparents were very fortunate and blessed to find and be with their one true love. They say that he that will be left behind loves all the more because he is still willing to endure the pain... but then again, we cannot quantify love.

Hugs and prayers to your grandpa, to your family

Sincerely,
Ms. rachel

Aileen Siroy June 4, 2010 at 1:10 AM  

Anonymous said...
Ms. Aileen,

This is Rachel, I was just coming to lok at the Photographs before but ended up reading the blogs.
I was the one who commented how true and heart warming your blogs are.

Please accept my sincere sympathies. Your grandparents were very fortunate and blessed to find and be with their one true love. They say that he that will be left behind loves all the more because he is still willing to endure the pain... but then again, we cannot quantify love.

Hugs and prayers to your grandpa, to your family

Sincerely,
Ms. rachel

. . . . .

Hi Ms Rachel,

Thank you.
My grandparents indeed define true love. Because of them, I have learned to believe that it could happen - true love, that is.

Thank you once again.
And yes, I remember you and the first comment you left. :)

Love,
Aileen

Liza June 9, 2010 at 1:43 PM  

Just seeing that photo of your grandpa by the casket is enough to break my heart. This must be a very difficult time for him.

Hang in there, Grandpa! Just hang in there... **HUGS**

Aileen Siroy June 9, 2010 at 1:58 PM  

Liza said...
Just seeing that photo of your grandpa by the casket is enough to break my heart. This must be a very difficult time for him.

Hang in there, Grandpa! Just hang in there... **HUGS**

. . . . .

This was truly heartbreaking, Liz.
Thank you for feeling for him.

Wish he could read this entry and your comment.
He'd be so touched. :)

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