03 June 2010

Family.


When D and I arrived at the wake. Here, with Azenith.

My sisters somehow made everything felt light during the wake. They kept on telling funny stories, they put on a brave face and stayed strong until the last day. They also, on their own initiative (when everyone else didn't know what to do), prepared food for family and visitors and kept the chapel clean. My nephews and nieces and my young cousins all helped in serving food. I was very proud of them. Mom, of course, worked the hardest.


Playing before dessert. In this photo: Aiana.

Off to the mall we went right after the funeral. It's a weird way to cope with grief. But for a little while, we did forget that we were in pain. We had a hearty meal. Talked a lot. Laughed. Remembered grandma and grandpa. We then spent time at the playground just before dessert. We played until we got so sweaty and tired.


Azenith, ako, and Clark.

After all the ki-at we did, we headed off to Ice Castles for some ice cream. We talked again. We savored each of our desserts. We had a beautiful time, what with Clark entertaining us.

Family does make the load a little lighter to carry. We are coping, each of us in our own way. And I know that we will be okay. For some of us, it might take time, but we will be okay.

And in moments when things become unbearable, we know we have friends to hold us up. Grateful.


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Cindy June 3, 2010 at 11:42 PM  

I am glad to hear your and your family is moving on slowly... keep that smile Ai...

Chelo June 4, 2010 at 12:57 AM  

you know ai...you know, there are people behind you all the time..

close knit families get through grief and bereavement with less trauma, than those who are not close..and your family are very close to one another,,

*hug*

Aileen Siroy June 4, 2010 at 1:12 AM  

Cindy said...
I am glad to hear your and your family is moving on slowly... keep that smile Ai...

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Slowly, Cinds. :) Thank you for your prayers for us.

Aileen Siroy June 4, 2010 at 1:14 AM  

Chelo said...
you know ai...you know, there are people behind you all the time..

close knit families get through grief and bereavement with less trauma, than those who are not close..and your family are very close to one another,,

*hug*

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I know, Chel. And you are one of them.
Thank you for always being there for me.
You and your family.

I'm glad I have Mom, my brother, and my sisters.
We try to be there for each other. We try our best. :) *hugs back*

konsuy June 4, 2010 at 4:58 AM  

experiences like this makes you closer to one another, just being there for one another. take care.

Mimi June 4, 2010 at 6:27 AM  

This is weird but this post just made me cry remembering the time Mama and I arrived at Daddy's wake straight from Cebu. It was awful. Presko pa gyud among grief kay dali ra ko kahilak.

Family like yours and mine are a blessing!

Tita Lou June 4, 2010 at 8:00 AM  

There is always a time for everything and you will cope the best way you can despite the pain. Am sure your grandma led a full happy life and you are one of the people that it made it so, so wherever she is now, am sure she is happy and grateful too of her loved ones.

Aileen Siroy June 4, 2010 at 9:53 AM  

konsuy said...
experiences like this makes you closer to one another, just being there for one another. take care.

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So true, Chi. :)
You take care, too.

Aileen Siroy June 4, 2010 at 9:56 AM  

Mimi said...
This is weird but this post just made me cry remembering the time Mama and I arrived at Daddy's wake straight from Cebu. It was awful. Presko pa gyud among grief kay dali ra ko kahilak.

Family like yours and mine are a blessing!

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I understand how everything is still so fresh
for you, Mi. It's never easy to lose someone
you love. Just cry when you want to. *hugs*

True, our families are blessings.
We have awesome sibs.
And more awesome Moms. :)

Aileen Siroy June 4, 2010 at 9:57 AM  

Tita Lou said...
There is always a time for everything and you will cope the best way you can despite the pain. Am sure your grandma led a full happy life and you are one of the people that it made it so, so wherever she is now, am sure she is happy and grateful too of her loved ones.

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Thank you for these comforting words, Tita Lou.
The thought of her being happy now comforts me.

Mimi June 4, 2010 at 10:28 AM  

awesome mom gyud kay she's stronger (or maybe trying to be so strong) than all of us. bilib!

thanks, leen. hugs back.

Liza June 9, 2010 at 1:32 PM  

There is no better way to deal with pain than to be with the people you love. My heart goes out to all of you, especially to your grandpa!

Aileen Siroy June 9, 2010 at 2:00 PM  

Liza said...
There is no better way to deal with pain than to be with the people you love. My heart goes out to all of you, especially to your grandpa!

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Oh, thank you, Liz. You are very sweet.
You are right, dealing with pain with family makes it a little bit easier.

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